Comments on: 16 and pregnant and I want to keep the baby, where do I start? http://www.maternity-blog.com/pregnant/16-and-pregnant-and-i-want-to-keep-the-baby-where-do-i-start A blog about Maternity Sun, 20 May 2012 13:53:23 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.7.1 hourly 1 By: Debbie M http://www.maternity-blog.com/pregnant/16-and-pregnant-and-i-want-to-keep-the-baby-where-do-i-start/comment-page-1#comment-544 Debbie M Fri, 02 Jan 2009 16:06:33 +0000 http://maternity-blog.com/pregnant/16-and-pregnant-and-i-want-to-keep-the-baby-where-do-i-start/#comment-544 I was 16 years old when I had my son i'm now 21 everything comes together I promise my family were very hard on me but it push me to do better. well i didn't have any money cause i didn't work so I collected items for the baby from Craigslist.org and freecycle.org people give out things all the time and most of my experince they're pertty good. I got a crib,lots of clothes, diapers, formula, etc....and the baby grow out of it so fast than I just pass it on. than I had a little job babysitting here and there to get bottles or mostly things I didn't have. but medical benefits when I had my son they came to the hospital and signed me up asked me if i needed resources than another worker called than another by the time i know it.everything was done...Congrats!!!! be strong when times get tough i mean tougher cuz it will but all worth it. I was 16 years old when I had my son i’m now 21 everything comes together I promise my family were very hard on me but it push me to do better. well i didn’t have any money cause i didn’t work so I collected items for the baby from Craigslist.org and freecycle.org people give out things all the time and most of my experince they’re pertty good. I got a crib,lots of clothes, diapers, formula, etc….and the baby grow out of it so fast than I just pass it on. than I had a little job babysitting here and there to get bottles or mostly things I didn’t have. but medical benefits when I had my son they came to the hospital and signed me up asked me if i needed resources than another worker called than another by the time i know it.everything was done…Congrats!!!! be strong when times get tough i mean tougher cuz it will but all worth it.

]]> By: ChemE-Kaun http://www.maternity-blog.com/pregnant/16-and-pregnant-and-i-want-to-keep-the-baby-where-do-i-start/comment-page-1#comment-543 ChemE-Kaun Wed, 31 Dec 2008 20:05:31 +0000 http://maternity-blog.com/pregnant/16-and-pregnant-and-i-want-to-keep-the-baby-where-do-i-start/#comment-543 College is hard enough without kids and you being at such a young age it is very unlikely you will be able to provide a good quality of life for this baby or yourself. How is that baby going to feel knowing that it was created by a rape? Consider abortion or adoption. College is hard enough without kids and you being at such a young age it is very unlikely you will be able to provide a good quality of life for this baby or yourself. How is that baby going to feel knowing that it was created by a rape? Consider abortion or adoption.

]]> By: carrie_adams19 http://www.maternity-blog.com/pregnant/16-and-pregnant-and-i-want-to-keep-the-baby-where-do-i-start/comment-page-1#comment-542 carrie_adams19 Mon, 29 Dec 2008 11:22:02 +0000 http://maternity-blog.com/pregnant/16-and-pregnant-and-i-want-to-keep-the-baby-where-do-i-start/#comment-542 whats done is done. you can't undo it. I applaude you for keeping the baby. It's now time to put your Motherly instincts to work. If there is a Planned Parenthood center around, I'm sure they can offer help and suggestions. Talk to your Grandparents about what to do. Continue taking classes in College. Perhaps your grandparents can baby sit...or maybe a close friend or relative...get your distant family involved, explain to them the situation....I don't care who it is, nieces, Aunts, Uncles, Nephews, Cousins, Great Aunts, Great Uncles, Brothers, Sisters, Step Mom, Step Dad, Neighbors, just find anyone who can help. You might be able to find used baby items at a GoodWill store or Dollar General. Look on the internet for teenage mothers. I know a Woman who might also be able to help you. She has youtube account and has gone through this before. ITS ON YOU TUBE. Her name is alilbabyphat. If find the " water birth original video" on you tube, you will find her. Talk to her. Good luck and hope this helps! whats done is done. you can’t undo it. I applaude you for keeping the baby. It’s now time to put your Motherly instincts to work. If there is a Planned Parenthood center around, I’m sure they can offer help and suggestions. Talk to your Grandparents about what to do. Continue taking classes in College. Perhaps your grandparents can baby sit…or maybe a close friend or relative…get your distant family involved, explain to them the situation….I don’t care who it is, nieces, Aunts, Uncles, Nephews, Cousins, Great Aunts, Great Uncles, Brothers, Sisters, Step Mom, Step Dad, Neighbors, just find anyone who can help. You might be able to find used baby items at a GoodWill store or Dollar General. Look on the internet for teenage mothers. I know a Woman who might also be able to help you. She has youtube account and has gone through this before. ITS ON YOU TUBE. Her name is alilbabyphat. If find the ” water birth original video” on you tube, you will find her. Talk to her. Good luck and hope this helps!

]]> By: tash http://www.maternity-blog.com/pregnant/16-and-pregnant-and-i-want-to-keep-the-baby-where-do-i-start/comment-page-1#comment-541 tash Fri, 26 Dec 2008 15:33:02 +0000 http://maternity-blog.com/pregnant/16-and-pregnant-and-i-want-to-keep-the-baby-where-do-i-start/#comment-541 im in the uk scotland so i don't no the answer, but what i will say is just because ur 16 doesn't mean you will be a bad parent every new mum struggles and its how you deal with those struggles that counts. if you feel ready and you re sure,theres no reason why you cant do a good job and cope.. try and get some support not just because your 16 because every mum needs it.. good luck stay strong don't listen to these negative comments they don't know you . have a good pregnancy xx im in the uk scotland so i don’t no the answer, but what i will say is just because ur 16 doesn’t mean you will be a bad parent every new mum struggles and its how you deal with those struggles that counts. if you feel ready and you re sure,theres no reason why you cant do a good job and cope.. try and get some support not just because your 16 because every mum needs it.. good luck stay strong don’t listen to these negative comments they don’t know you . have a good pregnancy xx

]]> By: kissygirl98 http://www.maternity-blog.com/pregnant/16-and-pregnant-and-i-want-to-keep-the-baby-where-do-i-start/comment-page-1#comment-540 kissygirl98 Fri, 26 Dec 2008 08:22:39 +0000 http://maternity-blog.com/pregnant/16-and-pregnant-and-i-want-to-keep-the-baby-where-do-i-start/#comment-540 omg you should tell your grand pop and mom and also your parents if you havent.get a job.never do abrotion it is sick its killing a living thing. omg you should tell your grand pop and mom and also your parents if you havent.get a job.never do abrotion it is sick its killing a living thing.

]]> By: steph http://www.maternity-blog.com/pregnant/16-and-pregnant-and-i-want-to-keep-the-baby-where-do-i-start/comment-page-1#comment-539 steph Thu, 25 Dec 2008 19:55:58 +0000 http://maternity-blog.com/pregnant/16-and-pregnant-and-i-want-to-keep-the-baby-where-do-i-start/#comment-539 you go to the doctors to make sure everything is ok then you can ask them where can you go to get help. They'll be able to tell you all you need to know. And no person can tell you what to do. You should also talk to the father of the baby about this. Don't forget about the laws with sex and the age of consent in your state. you go to the doctors to make sure everything is ok then you can ask them where can you go to get help. They’ll be able to tell you all you need to know. And no person can tell you what to do. You should also talk to the father of the baby about this. Don’t forget about the laws with sex and the age of consent in your state.

]]> By: ashoflower08 http://www.maternity-blog.com/pregnant/16-and-pregnant-and-i-want-to-keep-the-baby-where-do-i-start/comment-page-1#comment-538 ashoflower08 Mon, 22 Dec 2008 16:20:51 +0000 http://maternity-blog.com/pregnant/16-and-pregnant-and-i-want-to-keep-the-baby-where-do-i-start/#comment-538 Oh, sweetie...don't be disheartened that people are having a different reaction to your sister's pregnancy than yours--it sounds like she's probably older than you and more prepared. The lecturing and the yelling is mostly from shock, it sounds like. It's a shame that people aren't being more supportive of you because you have never needed anyone in your whole life more than you need them now. Be honest with them about how you're feeling--you need them. As far as getting things together, you can start with counseling at a Planned Parenthood clinic, they're pretty accessible in New Jersey (I used to live in the Parsipanny area). It looks like you have internet access, you can also probably find a lot of good places in your area to go for free counseling services to help you gather some more information. Even though you say you want to keep the baby, it's very prudent to think about what would be best for you AND the baby. You're right, you can't raise a baby while you're on the couch at your grandparents' house and it will be very difficult for you to be able to support yourself at this point, let alone a newborn. Adoption is a very beautiful option--and there are SO many wonderful, wonderful people trying to. These families can give babies SO much. Good luck to you. Oh, sweetie…don’t be disheartened that people are having a different reaction to your sister’s pregnancy than yours–it sounds like she’s probably older than you and more prepared. The lecturing and the yelling is mostly from shock, it sounds like. It’s a shame that people aren’t being more supportive of you because you have never needed anyone in your whole life more than you need them now. Be honest with them about how you’re feeling–you need them.

As far as getting things together, you can start with counseling at a Planned Parenthood clinic, they’re pretty accessible in New Jersey (I used to live in the Parsipanny area). It looks like you have internet access, you can also probably find a lot of good places in your area to go for free counseling services to help you gather some more information.

Even though you say you want to keep the baby, it’s very prudent to think about what would be best for you AND the baby. You’re right, you can’t raise a baby while you’re on the couch at your grandparents’ house and it will be very difficult for you to be able to support yourself at this point, let alone a newborn. Adoption is a very beautiful option–and there are SO many wonderful, wonderful people trying to. These families can give babies SO much.

Good luck to you.

]]> By: Princess_Mexicana http://www.maternity-blog.com/pregnant/16-and-pregnant-and-i-want-to-keep-the-baby-where-do-i-start/comment-page-1#comment-537 Princess_Mexicana Sat, 20 Dec 2008 19:13:27 +0000 http://maternity-blog.com/pregnant/16-and-pregnant-and-i-want-to-keep-the-baby-where-do-i-start/#comment-537 OK 1st contact HUD they will help with you with your housing costs 2nd: Make an appointment with WIC not for Food Stamps but for milk and cheese and cereal, and when baby is born they give him his/her formula 3rd Apply for Medicaid and Food Stamps, Look in the Phone Book for those Numbers 4th Congratulations On your bundle of Joy. Dont lIsten to the rude comments, its your choice and you made the right one! OK 1st contact HUD they will help with you with your housing costs
2nd: Make an appointment with WIC not for Food Stamps but for milk and cheese and cereal, and when baby is born they give him his/her formula
3rd Apply for Medicaid and Food Stamps, Look in the Phone Book for those Numbers
4th Congratulations On your bundle of Joy.

Dont lIsten to the rude comments, its your choice and you made the right one!

]]> By: mnjlknight http://www.maternity-blog.com/pregnant/16-and-pregnant-and-i-want-to-keep-the-baby-where-do-i-start/comment-page-1#comment-536 mnjlknight Thu, 18 Dec 2008 04:10:53 +0000 http://maternity-blog.com/pregnant/16-and-pregnant-and-i-want-to-keep-the-baby-where-do-i-start/#comment-536 DO NOT HAVE AN ABORTION I can not believe someone wrote that. A child is a wonderful thing I have been trying for 6 years to have one and can't because of my ovaries. A baby is a live person and a gift from GOD! Call the youth court or social services I am a guardian ad litem and alot of them have great ideas and programs for youth parents. Congrats and God bless! DO NOT HAVE AN ABORTION I can not believe someone wrote that. A child is a wonderful thing I have been trying for 6 years to have one and can’t because of my ovaries. A baby is a live person and a gift from GOD! Call the youth court or social services I am a guardian ad litem and alot of them have great ideas and programs for youth parents. Congrats and God bless!

]]> By: Makayla http://www.maternity-blog.com/pregnant/16-and-pregnant-and-i-want-to-keep-the-baby-where-do-i-start/comment-page-1#comment-535 Makayla Wed, 17 Dec 2008 14:46:26 +0000 http://maternity-blog.com/pregnant/16-and-pregnant-and-i-want-to-keep-the-baby-where-do-i-start/#comment-535 You need to first go to your local health dept and get a proof of pregnancy sheet there, then take it to the medicaid office, to get set up on medicaid. Then to get set up with housing, you have to apply at the local housing authority. Im not sure if you will get it bc of your age tho. The best thing you can do right now, is go to the docter. You are very brave for keeping the baby, and it's an amazing thing. I got pregnant with my daughter at 17, now I am having another one at 19. It is hard but it is all worth it. You need to first go to your local health dept and get a proof of pregnancy sheet there, then take it to the medicaid office, to get set up on medicaid. Then to get set up with housing, you have to apply at the local housing authority. Im not sure if you will get it bc of your age tho. The best thing you can do right now, is go to the docter. You are very brave for keeping the baby, and it’s an amazing thing. I got pregnant with my daughter at 17, now I am having another one at 19. It is hard but it is all worth it.

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